Understanding another person’s thoughts, feelings or behaviours is part of getting to know them. It is easy to judge based on our own assumptions of what is appropriate, but life is not that simple. It can be hard sometimes to look at a situation through another’s eyes. However, from my experience, the real growth comes as you can learn about your response to the initial trigger. Without this knowledge, you will find yourself in the same situation again and again.
To help me gain understanding I regularly review situations outside of the moment. The stronger my reaction, the more important I find it is to dig deep and be honest to develop the best outcomes for every one. In the following acrostic poem I share my thoughts and experiences reviewing difficult conversations and situations.
Unveiling the uncertainty
Negativity or neglect
Discovering the depth of the drive
Educating myself to encourage and empower
Realising any resentfulness I respond with reassurance and respect
Secure, sensitive and supportive
Treading lightly, building trust and tolerance
Aware and authentic of my feelings
No longer nervous, nasty or numb
Delighted the situation is different now
Invigorated through involvement
Nurturing and
Getting to know myself as well as you better