You’ve been given the opportunity to send one message to one person you wouldn’t normally have access to. Who’s the person you choose, and what’s the message?
My message is a life skill and is for everyone. Arguments and disagreements happen regularly. But how do you know when to push your point and when to back off. The answer can be found in five little words.
“Is it worth the argument?”
No. I’m talking about for the sake of pride but what the outcome needs to be. If the answer is “yes, it is,” continue with your argument and make it count. It is however important to keep checks on how your argument is going. Ask yourself regularly, “is it worth the argument?” Because what was once worth the argument at any point may no longer be working. Discussions may have become heated, nasty and overemotional. If left to continue they may begin to have a marked impact on the relationship between the people involved. The argument itself hasn’t changed but discussing it any further at that moment “is not worth it.” Both parties need space to consider and hear what the other person is saying. During this time, stop the argument. Consider a statement that works for you, similar to the following.
“We need to stop now, this is no longer working. No further discussions will be entered into.”
One example of the above situation may be parents/teachers setting boundaries with teenagers about acceptable and non-acceptable behaviour. It may take them years to understand but keeping them safe is definitely worth the argument.
One the other hand, arguing about smaller issues isn’t worth the argument. Does it really matter whether the cup is blue or green when it could be described as either?
Next time you find yourself arguing with someone or even yourself—make it count. Ensure whichever way you go, you are moving forward.
Great post!
A very good point to make and one we often don’t learn until the later part of our lives. Not saying this is true for you. If it isn’t, good for you! If it is, good for you, too! Judy
I use and teach it daily however I don’t remember when I learnt it, probably many years ago.
Very true what you say and what I try to live by….I will admit as my girls have become teens, it has gotten harder, but I gotta keep reminding myself, don’t sweat the small stuff! Pick your battles. Room not clean, I close the door….don’t like the music they are playing, I tell them to put headphones on 🙂 Save my arguments for the things that are serious issues. Thanks for the reminder!
Glad you liked it. Headphones are a great invention that save many arguments.