Is it easy for you to ask for help when you need it, or do you prefer to rely only on yourself? Why?
I am an independent, goal setting person who understands the power of being able to ask for help when I need it. This doesn’t mean I am weak. It means I am strong enough to say I need help and that I know how to get it. I understand the power of delegation—asking someone to do something for me. In most cases my asking for help may teach the other person a skill along the way. I find as a leader that my team recognise that importance of asking for help when they see me doing it naturally.
When I wanted to learn to blog I asked everyone I knew that blogged how to go about it. Piecing together all the information I set up my blog. It took a lot of asking to finally get it running well however I am proud of my achievement. Something I would never have been able to do without help.
For me asking for help is about connecting with my needs. If I am too exhausted from a busy day at work and someone asks me whats for dinner I will say “whatever you get.” This triggers a chain of events from which dinner is sorted.
- The other person recognises that I am tired and not getting dinner.
- They decide if they have the energy and if so start preparing.
- We collectively decide how hungry we are and whether cheese on toast will fill the hole or if we want to order takeaway or go out to eat.
Either way for me the simple task of asking for help with dinner usually recharges me enough to pick up where I left off.
If I don’t understand something I ask rather than wasting time attempting to figure it out myself and getting nowhere. Let others help lessens your load, gets the job done quicker and brings you closer together. Asking for help also assists with setting boundaries with people as you decide who is the best person to help you with the task at hand rather than accepting someone not suitable because they offered.
Well said, sure can relate.
Thanks.
Very wise. I need to do this more.
Thank you. It gets easier with practice.
Sensible words – we’re often reticent to ask for help, but pleased to be able to give it.
Exactly which is why I like to think of asking for help as a gift we give others.
Well put I relate to your take on this prompt asking for help makes sense if it becomes a shared experience. Thank you.
Thank you. It works for me.
Open yourself up to Help, it’s not at all bad to ask.
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I approach it as imposing on someone else. Ah, and then there is that “weakness” or “ignorance” that gets exposed to be used against you (personal experience). So, if I ask for help, directions, guidance – its never, ever from someone I know on a personal level. I’m just saying.
Everyone experience is different and I enjoy getting insights from others. Thanks for sharing.
“If I don’t understand something I ask rather than wasting time attempting to figure it out myself and getting nowhere” True True True True True!