What’s the one piece of advice you wish someone had given you a year (or five, or ten…) ago?
I have an innate ability to know who to trust. It’s an instant ability I have to be able to read people. When I interview for new staff I make it clear the person I choose will be the best fit for the team not necessarily the person with the highest scores on graduation. So far my trust has been rewarded by my choices being recognised as great team members by patients as well as other staff.
During the last 5 years however there was one occasion where my trust in a colleague was severely breached. I had to learn quickly not to doubt myself. I was right to originally trust this person however they broke that trust by their actions. I quickly recognised the problem—there was a crocodile in the pond, the pond itself although shaken was solid and full of life.
This realisation during an extremely difficult time helped me to continue believe in myself, build resilience in all concerned and continue to trust others.
Remember, sometimes when things are out of our control it’s not our fault, however we need to do what is necessary to take back control.
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In a way this may be similar. I’ve had some good advice on several subjects. One thing about me way earlier in life. I was stupid enough to go with my idea of respect for others.Off the bat.Got screwed too many times.
Talking about me here. I went by I give everyone respect till they do something to lose it. It does apply to a point. But in truth it is better to earn respect. Again to a point. And many situations where it it not that important like with close friends. Again several levels on that. I had friends who told me the latter.Wish it had sunk in earlier. Reaching a better approach to it all. A balance. Hope you catch my drift.
Balance is the answer.
Agreed
That’s very well said. Still we tend to blame ourselves for what others do, especially if we trusted them so much…
Thank you.